What's your favorite way to meet new people?

through friends. work is probably the easiest way for me to meet new people since i spend the most time there, but there's something to be said for being able to separate work from home.

What areas in your life do you have high hopes for and what are those high hopes?

i have high hopes for my next fellowship placement, namely that i'll actually get placed somewhere. i have a few places in mind, but my top four or five choices seem to shuffle around a lot.

What's the most pleasing accent to hear your language spoken with?

i love listening tan france speak, so i'll go with his.

What website or app has completely changed your life for better or for worse?

i love wunderlist because it reminds me of everything i need to do. google calendar runs my life and i'm not sure where i'd be without it. insight timer has gotten me through some pretty rough patches and i should really start using it more regularly again.

What makes you feel old?

seeing clips of tv shows or movies from the 90s. any 90s pop culture references, really.

Who is or was your greatest rival?

i'm not sure. i know that i'm my own worst enemy - does that count?

What's your favorite non-drug / non-alcohol high?

the rush of making a hard save or finishing a difficult surgery at work.

What's the worst thing you've heard one person say to another person?

i once overheard a guy telling his kid that he regretted marrying the kid's mother. i can't imagine how that can't hurt and stick with someone for a long, long time.

How do you feel about books?

i love books, and i read as much as i can. if i have the option, then i only buy books in e-book form. they're easier to manage when it comes time to move.

What was your most memorable dream or nightmare?

i have this recurring dream that i'm listening to the radio while my mom and i are driving around town. there's some sort of puzzle that needs to be solved, almost like a scavenger hunt, and we figure out the next clue, so we start looking for a red telephone booth. we turn a corner and suddenly there are blue phone booths everywhere, out of nowhere, but we keep driving until we hit a bunch of fields and there's a red phone booth in the middle of one of them. i always wake up before we actually get to the booth and find the next clue.

What do you love about yourself?

i love that i get to help people in ways that can improve their lives, if not save them altogether.

What have you gotten too old to put up with?

bullshit. other people's selfishness or thoughtlessness. fair weather friends.

What cheesy song do you love?

if it's cheesy 90's pop, chances are that i love it. but also, whenever i hear either of these songs, they get stuck in my head for days: justin bieber's love yourself and kygo and selena gomez's it ain't me. do those count as cheesy? they're not what i usually listen to.

What event would you like to know the whole and complete truth about?

amelia earhart's disappearance, though i think we're getting closer to learning the truth.

What have you recently become obsessed with?

reading about amelia earhart's disappearance!

What's surprising about you?

i'm not really sure. that i have a tattoo? that i'm a synesthete and can see people's auras?

If you could only wear one outfit for the rest of your life, what would it be?

i'm torn between going for comfort and saying my favorite jeggings, a comfortable t-shirt, a zip-up hoodie, and a comfy pair of sandals, but another part of me wants to go all out and wear some fancy schmancy dress for the rest of my life. it seems way less practical, though.

What would be the cutest infestation to have in your home?

puppies. so many puppies. any kind of puppy, but if i get to choose, i'd love to have an infestation of pork chop puppies...as long as they're all housebroken.

When you were a kid what silly thing were you deathly afraid of?

waves. like, ocean waves. i was a weird kid. still am.

Where do you like going for walks?

i don't go for walks often unless it's to walk my dog, which probably says that i need to slow down more. we usually just stick to the neighborhood, but on days off when the weather is nice, i'll take him to the dog park.

If you found out you would inexplicably fall down dead in one year, what would you change about your life?

i'd quit my job and see the world.

What movie have you seen more than seven times?

there are a few, but moana comes to mind!

What skill do you wish more people took the time to learn?

driving, and driving safely and efficiently. this includes using your god damn turn indicator.

What would be the scariest text message to wake up to?

"it happened again."

What complex fictional character really intrigues you?

oscar wao from junot diaz's the brief wondrous life of oscar wao. or, you know, matilda.

What always lets you down and what never lets you down?

buzzfeed. ...but also, buzzfeed.

What's the best thing you could tell someone to cheer them up when they are feeling down?

i'd ask them what's on their mind. if that doesn't get me anywhere, then i'd just try to distract them somehow, whether it's through food or a movie or talking through coco like he's a hand puppet or something.

how much wood could a woodchuck chuck if he was bored out of his mind?

all the wood. there can never be enough wood.

why do you think people pretend in their day to day life?

because life, even the little day to day aspects, is performative.

do you think it's too late for you, dahlia and i to run off before hector notices?

yes. hector sees all.

would you raise a unicorn with me if they existed?


and really, why does all this other crap exist but i have yet to see ONE unicorn?!?

maybe they're invisible.

do you think one of your boobs is bigger than the other? cos i think one of mine is.

chances are, you're right! i don't think mine are totally symmetrical. not sure that actually exists in real life.

what do you think we need more of, serious or silly?

right now, silly.

have you ever read the comic sex criminals? because you should, it's brilliant!

no, but i'll add it to my ever-growing list of things to read.

what kind of cake should be at the perfect wedding? asking for a friend...

a layer cake with alternating layers of the couple's favorite flavor(s).

what colour would be the best for a bridesmaid's dress? also asking for a friend...

turquoise sarees.

what would a world populated by clones of you be like?

ugh, no, no one wants that.

what mythical creature do you wish actually existed?

UNICORNS. or yetis.

how do you get rid of hiccups?

swallow three times while holding my breath. works every time.

before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say?

sometimes, depending on the nature of the call.

what would constitute a "perfect" day for you?

sleeping in, having a big waffle brunch, hanging out with my pupper, lounge around and/or hang out with friends, lots of tapas for dinner, and then probably end the day with a hot bath.

if magic was real, what spell would you try to learn first?

wingardium leviosa!

if someone narrated your life, who would you want to be the narrator?

meryl streep!

what makes you roll your eyes every time you hear it?

whenever someone says "i don't believe in..." when it's a thing that actually exists, or whenever someone prefaces a statement with "i don't mean to be rude" or "not to be racist/sexist/some other -ist."

if you were moving to another country, but could only pack one carry-on sized bag, what would you pack?

hang on, wait. if i can't bring my pets with me, i'm not going at all.

what weird food combinations do you really enjoy?

i don't think i have any weird ones. sometimes i'll mix cereal into ice cream, depending on the flavors and what i have around, but that doesn't feel that weird to me.

what game have you spent the most hours playing?

it's either mario kart or some version of the sims.

do you think that aliens exist?

yes! i think it would be foolish and arrogant to think that earth holds the only life in the entire universe.

what 'old person' things do you do?

i love going to movies by myself. i live in comfies when i'm at home. i don't get a lot of pop culture references, because med school and residency means that i kimmie schmidt'ed my way through most of my twenties. i love board games and puzzles and HGTV shows. i don't have much time for them these days, but i also like crafts!

if you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

i wish i had a sibling, or that judaism had been a bigger part of my life at an earlier age, if only for community and culture rather than faith. i also wouldn't have gone to boarding school.

who do you go out of your way to be nice to?

other than friends and other people i care about (which i guess isn't really going out of my way), probably anyone i see struggling in public.

if you were a ghost and could possess people, what would you make them do?

it depends. if we're talking average people walking down the street, i'd possess them and make them break into song. turn whole city blocks into ridiculous musicals. for others, like people who have done terrible things, i'd make them square up somehow, or just embarrass the shit out of them.

if you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

the ability to calm my anxiety on command.

what are you currently worried about?

the monday drag after having a week off of work.

which fictional character would make the worst roommate?

harry potter. so much stuff happened him as a kid, even just in the gryffindor dorms alone. you can't tell me his roommates got much sleep.

if a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

where will i be living in a year?

what was the last photo you took?


what's the most ridiculous thing you have bought?

probably that unicorn snow tube that lasted a whole day before it had to be exorcised destroyed.

what movie can you watch over and over without ever getting tired of?

does the gilmore girls: a year in the life count as a movie?

what do you value most in a friendship?

trust, communication, and accountability.

which of your vices or bad habits would be the hardest to give up?

vices? probably sugar. as for bad habits, i'm too hard on myself and i don't sleep enough. work gets most of my attention these days but that's sort of out of my hands and isn't going to change anytime soon.

what was the best thing that happened to you today?

i had a great breakfast thanks to whitney, and the drive back to boston didn't suck donkey dick, surprisingly.

What drives you?

my friends, my family, and an innate desire to do better and be better.

What would you consider your passion?

cop out answer: critical care surgery.

What would you wanna teach girls of the younger generation? Boys too, for that matter.

love yourselves and be good to each other. the world doesn't owe you anything.

If you could pick one artist or band to write the soundtrack of your life, who would it be?


Where would you move to, if you could just get up and go?

i've been thinking about this a lot lately, and in my head, i keep going back to san francisco.

What's one thing in pop culture that you consider underrated? Overrated?

this is such an awful question for me since i live under a rock and make ten year old pop culture references...let me think about this.

What would you like to see in the future, like twenty years from now?

a lot of things. the most important thing is probably our world with more sustainable living practices so that we have an earth to live on for even longer. a lot of the other things that i'd want to see in the future, politically, socially, technologically, etc., are prerequisites for that.

What celebrity would you want to narrate your life?

meryl streep!

If you could raid any fashionista's closet, whose would it be?

do i have to do the closet-raiding myself? can i just have tan france give me an entirely new wardrobe instead?

If you had the choose of what your last words would be, what would you make them?

i'm not sure. i feel like this is something that could change depending on my mood.

what is the weirdest complaint you've ever had from a patient?

i once saw a patient whose chief complaint was a "herd of beavers" in his pants.

is there an incorrect way to cook/eat bacon (other than not cooking/eating it)?

i can't get behind vegetarian/vegan bacon. it's just wrong.

if you had to spend the rest of your life as an animal, which animal would you choose?

a narwhal.

what would you do with the last day of your life before you transformed into that animal?

say bye to my friends and pets and family.

what book do you wish you'd never read?

the trial by kafka.

what song would you be happy never to hear again?

every taylor swift song ever.

what movie do you wish you could watch again for the very first time?

probably the first harry potter movie, to fall in love with it the cinematic version of that world all over again. this should come as a surprise to no one.

What makes you feel unstoppable?

saving a life, especially one that was thought to be a lost cause.

What was the last brave thing you did?

i went white water rafting!

Where are your tender spots and what do you hide them beneath?

why would i reveal that?!

How much exactly do you pay your therapist?

my co-pay is $30.

If you could do one day in your life over, which would it be and why?

i'm not sure that i would. the past is the past.

Favorite movie of all time? What do you think it says about you?

planes, trains, and automobiles. not really for the movie itself, but because for a while, it became this oddball tradition that my parents and i would watch it each thanksgiving.

What are some things you value?

family and friendship.

Who do you want to be when you grow up?

a better, happier version of my current self.

Which Avenger do you identify most with? How come?

a what now?

What's one of your fears?

snakes. i'm terrified of them. can't even stand toys or cartoons.

If you looked into the Mirror of Erised, what would you see?

right now, a ginormous ice cream sundae.

What if you lost your sense of sight, what would you miss seeing the most?

other people's faces.

What smell do you associate with one of your favorite memories from childhood?

farm smell makes me think of the chicken coop my parents had at our house in orinda. i used to chase those chickens around thinking that i was helping somehow, and i had a lot of fun doing it, so probably that.

What's your opinion on aliens?

aliens are real.

what's something new that you've never tried until recently?

acting more impulsively.

what's your claim to fame amongst your friends? your coworkers?

both of them know that i run on very little sleep.

what job would you be terrible at?

anything in customer service!

what tv show or movie do you refuse to watch?

most reality tv. i can't do it.

what's something you can never finish?

a journal. i'm terrible at keeping up with those.

what's one thing you can't forgive?

this list is getting longer and longer by the day. i don't think there's any one specific thing. for the most part, i'm a pretty forgiving person and i'm willing to give people the benefit of the doubt and give them multiple chances...but once i've had it, i've had it. you're done. bye.

where do you feel most out of place?

social situations where i don't know most of the people around. and sometimes, boston, tbh.

where haven't you been that you want to visit?

the galapagos!

if you could go back a year, what advice would you give yourself?

strap in and hold tight. no matter what happens, don't lose sight of yourself.

if you could speak to animals, what do you think your pets would say?

pork chop would talk about how much he loves everyone and would beg for food. coco would probably just grump, quietly, and grumble about people he dislikes whenever they drop by.

what, if anything, would you change about your physical appearance if you could?

i'd change my nose. it's too pointy.

what does your patronus look like?

this narwhal!

what food trend do you think is overrated?

unicorn food. it was cute the first couple of times but i really don't want rainbow bagels.

what food can you never resist?

french fries.

what do you like most about your career? what do you hate?

i love that i can help people and save lives. i hate having to give bad news to families, which happens too often. the hours also mean that sometimes i miss out on stuff in my personal life, which sucks too, but it's been easy enough to deal with so far.

if you could choose who you swap lives with for a week, who would you pick?

wait, do i really have to?